Hunt For The Wilderpeople

           Majority of the culture in the past did practice patriarchal where males are dominating in the society and in the family.  However, in the modern days, there are still many cultures that practice it.  This traditional role of male is being restricted as there are many “traditional masculine” men who currently experiencing a syndrome which named “Normative Male Alexithymia” especially for the male who come from collectivistic and patriarchal culture. 

            

           Normative Male Alexithymia is a disease that happen on male when they are having difficulty in articulating their inner feelings especially the feelings like hurt or vulnerability.  In short, it is a term that describe that when someone has a lot of difficulty in translating their emotional experience into words.  This symptom can be shown in the movie by the little boy (Ricky Baker) and the father (Hec) as they are unable to demonstrate their feeling of love and care for one and another especially after the death of the mother (Bella).  This phenomenon occurs can be explained by the traditional masculine role socialization which channels male into ways that being masculine male who want to portray masculinity identity will have conflict with their emotions they feel.  This is because their masculinity does not allowed them to expressed the feeling and they may perceived this kind of feeling as feminine and will decreased their masculinity in front of the society. 

For example, Hec is worried about Ricky when he found out that he had run away from home in the midnight and on the way of finding Ricky, he accidentally injures his leg.  This shows that Hec is a person who cared about Ricky but he did not know how to express it out instead he showed it through his action by telling Ricky that he actually is cared for him.  On the other hand, Ricky fakes his suicide by burning a barn and run away from home just to avoid to be sent back to the orphanage after the death of Bella as he is in love with this family and did not want to leave anymore.  This showed that Ricky is cared and love about the family but he did not know how to expressed it as there are no one there to guide him and teach him since young. 

           

            Being unable to expressed their inner feeling will causes the relationship to be difficult as it is the key variable in guiding the successful relationships.  If the need is not being met, the partner may had the feeling that they are being unknown and valued by the others.  If either one of the individual in the relationship cannot put into words their feelings about not being known and valued, but instead hides, defends, or deflects such feelings, then the chances of disharmony and vicious relational cycles are greatly increased and it even get worsen if both parties also unable to express it. 

           

           In conclusion, the relationship will only be improved if and only if both parties understand the meaning behind the action is the meaning of love and cared.  However, this understanding takes a longer period and in the meantimes there might be a lot of difficulties that may lead to many conflicts before both parties understand it.  Thus, the simplest way in improving the relationship is to speak it out the inner feelings to let the other parties know the reason behind it as it can cut short all the time and avoid the conflict to be occur.